To many, far to many mix real life expectations with the online fantasy.
Do not get me wrong, it is possible, its even probable some will do so successfully, but to rush headlong into such a relationship between a Master, and slave, is a thousand times more questionable then it is for a vanilla relationship. You have so many more levels to work through, trust being only but ONE of those.
There must be clear, precise, and defined lines that seperate our real lives, and that of the roleplay life within Second Life, or, other online community forum. Have you set yours? Have you sat down and decided what lines are permissible to 'muddy' and what lines are strict 'no go' lines? If you have not, then when you start role playing, then you will quickly find out how fast those lines can merge, and cross over.
In my view, this is one of the most common reasons drama is introduced into roleplay. We as humans, in roleplay, or out of, invest feelings to some extent in each other, love, hate, among others creep in, if we do not keep them in check, they will slowly create issues between us, and can drive us, as Goreans, as HUMANS with a common interest, apart. As much as some might enjoy seeing us driven apart, through unnescessary drama, it is not something that helps the community, it harms it, it harms every sim, every city, every camp, every attempt to create a decent, recreated Gorean environment that anyone ever attempts to place on the Second Life grid.
We need to draw together. One of the MANY steps we need to start with is defining such things as our lines, those lines we might cross, and those lines we will not cross. Everyone, you, me, the she-urt on your docks has them.
Some of the conditions I place on the slaves, upon my chain, are really very simple.
- You will not cam without my permission
- You will not voice without my permission
- You will not telephone without my permission
- You will not share real life details or contact information without my permission.
- You will not cross any part of gorean roleplay into real life, without my 'permission'.
- You are up for sale, rent, lease, or trade, any roleplay, or act that will help enhance your feeling of 'slavery' within the roleplay environment.
- You will not make real life purchases, for any man, or master or person without my permission. Especially if it puts your real life financial position at risk
Now, do they really need my permission? Of course not, however they wouldn't be very good slaves if they did disregard them, these are put in place for their protection, most, understand this, and some, if not all of them seem relieved. They know they are protected, they know that a line has been drawn for them. That I would need to do this at all kinda makes me disappointed in the type of men, or boys that play at games in second life, especially in the gorean environments that we try to duplicate closely, and attempt to savour.
Do my commands, upon my chain slave, cross into real life? Maybe it does, Do my commands, cross a line, that you might argue have no place in a gorean roleplay environment? I would argue, yes, you might be correct. The problem lays in when I do not do this. The problem lays in when one of the girls on my slave chain, are subject to use, unrestricted, to some of the 'less gorean' men in secondlife, who like to take advantage of the girls being so eager to be pleasing, and might fear being told, well you are not a slave if you dont obey; In fearing, being told, they will be known as a displeasing slave to others in SL-Gor. This I can not tolerate, stomach, or allow with my girls. You see, yes, I am jealous, I am protective, and I am very much angered by some of the stuff I see purported to be done 'in the name of Gor' or 'in the name of mastery' when its something very much different.
The next time you 'command' a slave, to give you something on my list above, those things that I restrict of my slaves. Consider what your asking, consider carefully what your crossing into.
The only protection a slave has, on Gor, according to the books, is her owner, her Master, only he might save her from the perils of what she might find herself up against. In exchange, she offers every bit of who she is. Her body, mind, heart, and even her soul. Then again, she has no choice, for she is his, and these girls, those on my chain, in my collar, are mine.
The next time you 'command' a slave, to give you something on my list above, those things that I restrict of my slaves. Consider what your asking, consider carefully what your crossing into.
The only protection a slave has, on Gor, according to the books, is her owner, her Master, only he might save her from the perils of what she might find herself up against. In exchange, she offers every bit of who she is. Her body, mind, heart, and even her soul. Then again, she has no choice, for she is his, and these girls, those on my chain, in my collar, are mine.
